My Grief Journey...It's not "just a pet" loss
My Grief Journey Continued...As I Suddenly Faced Growing Old Alone
Have you heard…”Well, it’s just a dog.”
It’s certainly not “just a dog” loss for me and not for most of us. When you lose a pet you are losing a family member. And even though I’ve had several pets, one of the most difficult losses for me was when I had to make the difficult decision to put down my Australian Shepherd, Spinner, after 13 years together.
My Grief Journey...I Don't Have the Luxury of Grieving
I met Dave in 1993 when he asked me to dance. He was a cowboy and at 6’2”, I was intrigued. Plus, growing up I always loved westerns and dreamed of living on a farm so the attraction was not a stretch. We had fun and many wonderful adventures together!
My Grief Journey...Continued With An Easting Disorder and Depression
As an athlete, my Dad loved all sports but baseball was his passion. His goal was to be a professional pitcher but an injury ended that dream. The injury and the fact that he had only daughters didn’t stop him from playing sports. In fact, he would invite me, the oldest of his three girls, to play with him. I was like the son he didn’t have and I say that only because, if you know me, you know that I am not the athletic type. But I loved my Dad so it was a no brainer to play sports with and for him.
Hide and Seek..... It's Not Just For Kids
After a wake up call with depression and an eating disorder, I went into full blown action. Also known as: Keep busy! Really busy!
I married my high school sweetheart and the dream was that we would buy the house, have the family and live happily ever after. We bought the house, had the baby but a year later, I was divorced. Boy, I didn’t see that coming. One night he came home and said he didn’t want to be married anymore, just like a scene from a really bad movie.
10 Reasons We Avoid Healing Our Heart
I can remember a time when I actually dreaded the weekends. The weekends seemed to shine a floodlight on what I had lost, so I would hide. During the week it was easier to avoid feeling the pain of the death of a loved one as I could distract (aka busy) myself with work and volunteering which was also a form of hiding.
A Holiday is a Holiday is a Holiday
We all experience loss at some point in our lives. There is no escaping it. We think it is abnormal or unnatural to feel the pain of loss so we avoid it......no matter what the cost. So we avoid it. Here are ten reasons we use to avoid healing our hearts.
3 Misconceptions About Grief
It all started when I spent one Fourth of July holiday alone. I remember thinking; “I’m sure everyone had great plans for today.” I imagined they were at cook outs, parades, firework displays, pools – anywhere that included other people and fun. But, when I spoke with my friend the next day, it turned out she didn’t have any plans either. We each assumed the other had plans.
I was having a conversation with a friend the other day that was experiencing a loss on the heels of the one-year anniversary of losing her mother. In talking with her I was reminded of the misconceptions about grief many experience when going through the grieving process